Forgiveness

americana · 11-06-2008, 10:00 PM

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to forgive someone in order to move on, in order to heal, or you would be consumed by it for the rest of your life?

What did you do to reach the point of forgiveness? (Of something simply devastating, something many might consider unforgivable.)

This is a difficult path for me, and I am looking for ideas and insight on how to proceed.

Thanks to anyone who can help.

meave · 11-06-2008, 10:15 PM

yes i have had to forgive myself my times

things happen for a reason and sometimes you have to go against the grain to gain insight as the leason well just keep showing up understand your leason and you will find your answer has the situtation happend before if not something with similar in the pattern of events the people or the situation that rings a bell somehow and try and remember what you would have done in hinsight.

i really hopes this helps
my thoughs are with you
please remember your trueself will shine through

meave

meave · 12-06-2008, 02:02 PM

just sending you big smiles to lighten yer load

cheesedanish · 12-06-2008, 04:37 PM

I reckon this is the biggest hardest lesson in life ...
why are relationships so difficult?
I can't answer your question for now I am putting my
head in the sand and hoping the problem will go away.

jvx19 · 12-06-2008, 06:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by americana

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to forgive someone in order to move on, in order to heal, or you would be consumed by it for the rest of your life?

What did you do to reach the point of forgiveness? (Of something simply devastating, something many might consider unforgivable.)

This is a difficult path for me, and I am looking for ideas and insight on how to proceed.

Thanks to anyone who can help.

Clean up your own side of the street, look at where you were wrong, realize that the other person may be spiritually sick. It is a big burden to carry around resentment towards others. Hope this helps.

cruise4 · 12-06-2008, 06:12 PM

Someone forgave me time and again and in the end that enabled me to come to terms with the problem I had. There's a message in there somewhere but it's escaping me.

americana · 12-06-2008, 08:03 PM

Thanks everyone who answered me thus far! Means a lot to me.

What I must forgive is something that happened in my childhood. I have only been able to tell some people about it this year, well over 30 years later.

This has been an incredibly important year for me, and I know that I am going through some major changes. I am turning a page and starting a new life.

Sorting out what to do and how to move on from this hurt, which has defined many of my personal relationships, is imperative.

I know it will take time, and thanks so much for your insight, everyone.

meave · 12-06-2008, 08:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by americana

Thanks everyone who answered me thus far! Means a lot to me.

What I must forgive is something that happened in my childhood. I have only been able to tell some people about it this year, well over 30 years later.

This has been an incredibly important year for me, and I know that I am going through some major changes. I am turning a page and starting a new life.

Sorting out what to do and how to move on from this hurt, which has defined many of my personal relationships, is imperative.

I know it will take time, and thanks so much for your insight, everyone.

you are who you are because this has happened in your life

diamondslike · 12-06-2008, 09:27 PM

forgiveness brings power and leaves you in the control. the person that angers you, conquers you.

forgiveness is good for your health, there are many bitter people who take their hurts to the grave with them and often die prematurely from the effects of holding onto unforgiveness towards another person. studies have been done which suggest that people who forgive are healthier,have less stress and have lower blood pressure! most of all it gives you peace.

the thing is though, you have to make sure then when you decide to forgive, that you actually do this rather than saying you'll forgive but hanging on to the hurt. its very easy to do this, ive done this myself and then come back full circle to my bitterness towards that person. give yourself time to forgive if you haven't already done it and make sure you are ready to make that commitment.

once you do forgive you get this amazing sense of relief and freedom. and just because you forgive it doesnt mean that the person to whom u have forgiven has got off scot free, they'll have there own consequences to bear eventually.

jvx19 · 13-06-2008, 12:24 AM

well said diamondslike. I heard this analogy before...Being angry at someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

11-06-2008, 10:00 PM	#1
americana Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NYC Posts: 756	Forgiveness Have you ever been in a situation where you had to forgive someone in order to move on, in order to heal, or you would be consumed by it for the rest of your life? What did you do to reach the point of forgiveness? (Of something simply devastating, something many might consider unforgivable.) This is a difficult path for me, and I am looking for ideas and insight on how to proceed. Thanks to anyone who can help.

12-06-2008, 09:27 PM	#9
diamondslike Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 41	forgiveness brings power and leaves you in the control. the person that angers you, conquers you. forgiveness is good for your health, there are many bitter people who take their hurts to the grave with them and often die prematurely from the effects of holding onto unforgiveness towards another person. studies have been done which suggest that people who forgive are healthier,have less stress and have lower blood pressure! most of all it gives you peace. the thing is though, you have to make sure then when you decide to forgive, that you actually do this rather than saying you'll forgive but hanging on to the hurt. its very easy to do this, ive done this myself and then come back full circle to my bitterness towards that person. give yourself time to forgive if you haven't already done it and make sure you are ready to make that commitment. once you do forgive you get this amazing sense of relief and freedom. and just because you forgive it doesnt mean that the person to whom u have forgiven has got off scot free, they'll have there own consequences to bear eventually. Last edited by diamondslike; 13-06-2008 at 07:16 AM.

11-06-2008, 10:15 PM	#2
meave Inactive Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 551	yes i have had to forgive myself my times things happen for a reason and sometimes you have to go against the grain to gain insight as the leason well just keep showing up understand your leason and you will find your answer has the situtation happend before if not something with similar in the pattern of events the people or the situation that rings a bell somehow and try and remember what you would have done in hinsight. i really hopes this helps my thoughs are with you please remember your trueself will shine through meave

12-06-2008, 02:02 PM	#3
meave Inactive Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 551	just sending you big smiles to lighten yer load

12-06-2008, 04:37 PM	#4
cheesedanish Premier Subscribers Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 629	I reckon this is the biggest hardest lesson in life ... why are relationships so difficult? I can't answer your question for now I am putting my head in the sand and hoping the problem will go away.

12-06-2008, 06:12 PM	#6
cruise4 Premier Subscribers Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 6,652	Someone forgave me time and again and in the end that enabled me to come to terms with the problem I had. There's a message in there somewhere but it's escaping me.

12-06-2008, 08:03 PM	#7
americana Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NYC Posts: 756	Thanks everyone who answered me thus far! Means a lot to me. What I must forgive is something that happened in my childhood. I have only been able to tell some people about it this year, well over 30 years later. This has been an incredibly important year for me, and I know that I am going through some major changes. I am turning a page and starting a new life. Sorting out what to do and how to move on from this hurt, which has defined many of my personal relationships, is imperative. I know it will take time, and thanks so much for your insight, everyone.

13-06-2008, 12:24 AM	#10
jvx19 Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 296	well said diamondslike. I heard this analogy before...Being angry at someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.