People judging people

[artmuzz]

I see myself as a nice decent friendly guy but I suffer anxiety and depression and very low self esteem and as a result I get the feeling that people I meet are judging me in a negative way especially young women. This makes me feel upset and shatters my confidence. Anyone ever felt the same way?

[dbzmatt]

Gotta kick that depression my friend - I have tried eating better and vitamins. Then find something you are good at and do it to show off for the ladies. Maybe someone will have some more advice later.

[artmuzz]

Originally Posted by dbzmatt

Gotta kick that depression my friend - I have tried eating better and vitamins. Then find something you are good at and do it to show off for the ladies. Maybe someone will have some more advice later.

Thanks for the advice. I am good at a lot of things like photography, art and design and music. I have been playing synths and keyboards since I was 11 and produce my own music on my Apple Mac. My music making is purely a hobby as I have never perfomed live at gigs though. Anyway due to my low self esteem i haven't been making much music for a couple of years due to lack of concentration and inspiration. My diet is good and bad. At breakfast I have porridge oats with soy milk and apple and Tomato Juice. My dinner consists of most Indian and Chinese take away food though A few years ago I was diagnosed with fatty liver.

[unicorny]

I know just how you feel, it used to cripple me always thinking people were saying the worst stuff about me - one day I stopped caring what other people thought and was happy to just be me. Still sneaks up occasionally but fresh veg and a good diet do also definitely help

[yanko]

Hey hope everything works out for you with the ladies! First i thought you were a pisces then saw your birthday. Anyhow do not know if you are into weed but just vibing out over your own music on weed might put you in states of euphoria and without a doubt make you more creative and continue doing music. Just a thought. ;-)
PEACE

[jonramification]

I find mantras and affirmation help, you have to really feel what you say though not just say it.

I suffer from a similar problem tbh i keep on thinking im pysically picking up on other peoples judgement as a few times ive been proven right (or was just a self fulling prophecy law of attraction, get what you look for etc). Next oppertunity to have a time out after this occurs go through the right process of what you like to think and feel/sense in that situation really put yourself there without the pressure of being there just the feeling of it and go through the postive motion you created. Like tai chi lerners starting of slow and guided then once they have the muscle memory just fly through it (take awhile though this anit no rocky montage). Its all about being pro active.

It still pops up for me when i least expect it but i now got my own little motion that i go through that settles me almost immediately now which is very satisfying.

[oiram]

Originally Posted by yanko

Hey hope everything works out for you with the ladies! First i thought you were a pisces then saw your birthday. Anyhow do not know if you are into weed but just vibing out over your own music on weed might put you in states of euphoria and without a doubt make you more creative and continue doing music. Just a thought. ;-)
PEACE

This is why I don't respect the once which are using drugs; because you are just promoting your own weakness to others so you don't feel alone in this world of weakness.

You can not fight depression by depressing it with drugs.

All you doing is to make it worse.

How can you kill the source if you feeding it?

The only way to get rid of depression is to find the source & then you eliminate the source & there will be no more depression.

Depression is a mental issue ..... a temporary resolvable self weakness & at the same time a self test.

I don't care if you like to blow your own brain away with drugs (make my day) but please don't promote this to others.

Especially not to those which are in a testing phase of there own life's.


For using it yourself needs no judgement because you are your own judge but if you promote shit to others needs death penalty for yourself.


Promote strength not weakness!

This is my clear opinion on this! ...... To be clear I'm not fighting you personally I'm fighting the weakness!!


Evil feeds on weakness! ..... That's why he is promoting it.

Originally Posted by artmuzz

I see myself as a nice decent friendly guy but I suffer anxiety and depression and very low self esteem and as a result I get the feeling that people I meet are judging me in a negative way especially young women. This makes me feel upset and shatters my confidence. Anyone ever felt the same way?

I presume you are still young with a long life in-front of you.

Try to learn one thing ....... who is number One in this world to you? .... Who is the true Pearl??

Once you worked this one out you are on your way!

Women? ....... think of them to be the right hand of Satan. >>> Look at the image on the bottom. "Coincidental"??

Do you know how much fish there is in the water? More then you could ever handle & most of the fish is very smelly.


And once YOU have found another Angel make a joint decision & look after each other.
Until this day has come you are the number One Angel ..... yes there are male & female Angels!
If you are one of these Angels you are one of only 10% on Earth!

But please stay away from drugs & alcohol ...... but once you truly know yourself you can try whatever you like because nothing will get you off track.

But if you like the hard way but total freedom you stay on your own. One thing money can not buy "Freedom"!

You maybe alone but never lonely once you have found your true self & inner strength.

Make sure you have found yourself before you try to tackle Satan & his following gang.

3. The Savior said, "If your leaders say to you, "Look, the (Father's) kingdom is in the sky," then the birds of the sky will precede you. If they say to you, "It is in the sea," then the fish will precede you. Rather, the (Father's) kingdom is within you and it is outside you.

When you know yourselves, then you will be known, and you will understand that you are children of the living Father. But if you do not know yourselves, then you live in poverty, and you are the poverty."


Question to YOU:
Do you know who I AM?? ................... >>>>> ............... again its not important who I AM; as long you know who you are = "Number ONE"!

Remember without YOU there is nothing & others are not YOU!

[artmuzz]

Originally Posted by oiram

I presume you are still young with a long life in-front of you.

Actually, I am approaching my 40s next year

Thanks for the replies so far. I have only taken weed once but I didn't like it as it made me feel worse and made me feel more paranoid.

[yanko]

To be clear I'm not fighting you personally I'm fighting the weakness!!
Evil feeds on weakness! ..... That's why he is promoting it.

Hey I wasn't promoting anything to make the person weaker! Just wrote it as a thought that vibing out on weed, since this soul is creative, can put him in states of euphoria. Some people like weed, some people don't.
Cannabis is not addictive so he can stop whenever he feels like it.
But ok, stay away from it then if it doesn't feel right.

Women? ....... think of them to be the right hand of Satan

Huh??!? That has to be the most misogynistic comment ever!!! It's not like he is lusting for several women, what's wrong with finding ONE nice woman to be with?

[yanko]

artmuzz:
I've tried 5 times to respond to your PM but nothing happens!
Don't know what's wrong...

[artmuzz]

Originally Posted by yanko

artmuzz:
I've tried 5 times to respond to your PM but nothing happens!
Don't know what's wrong...

Don't worry. I got your replies. Thanks

Can you tell me where in the profile you were able to see my birthday?

[yanko]

Yeah I saw that
Just by clicking on your profile and to the right something called mini statistics shows up:
Date of Birth
February 17
Join Date
05-03-2009
Total Posts
176

[ufochick]

I think there are 2 things that happen when people get into this mindset.

One; most all people judge others in some way on appearance. If you are in any way empathic you may be picking up on those who judge you badly. The thing to remember is that is a flaw in THEM. NOT YOU. Those who look at others and judge this way are only following that program because they feel inadequate and judging others to be beneith them makes them feel normal or "OK". Young women tend to be very insecure (another program introduced by todays society) so tend to judge others more negatively than older people.

Now I say this because it's crazy making to try to convince yourself that this is not happening if on some level you know it is.

Two; It's a program in you, you have made a habit of seeing yourself as not worthy. So change the program

Only you know if it's one or two or a combination of both. If it's one just smile and think wow I wish people could feel better about themselves and go on.

[artmuzz]

Originally Posted by yanko

Yeah I saw that
Just by clicking on your profile and to the right something called mini statistics shows up:
Date of Birth
February 17
Join Date
05-03-2009
Total Posts
176

Hmm that's strange I cannot see my birthday February 17 displayed on my profile. Also I cannot see anyone elses birthday displayed in their profile too.

[mr_i_disagree]

as a fellow panic/depressive i know how you feel, i know whatever i say wouldn't change anything for you, i hope you find find a way around it, its different for everyone.
good luck

[infinityandlove]

Originally Posted by artmuzz

I see myself as a nice decent friendly guy but I suffer anxiety and depression and very low self esteem and as a result I get the feeling that people I meet are judging me in a negative way especially young women. This makes me feel upset and shatters my confidence. Anyone ever felt the same way?

it's a 50/50 situation. the first 50 you have to just work on your self-confidence and your state of mind, and being, and the other 50 you should not at all worry about what people say or think of you. they live in a narrowminded duality of their own and that "allows" them to judge someone. it's one of the many 'faults' brought out in someone by this matrix duality.

[emeraldgreen]

Hi Artmuzz,

I also suffer from these feelings at times. Part of the problem is maybe that we already have a low view of ourselves because we are sensitive to our own 'failings' & feel we dont measure up to the high virtues and attributes we think we see in others. When I get into that frame of mind, it is hard to get out of. I also can feel so aware of other peoples thoughts that it hurts but maybe those thoughts are not always theirs - but an aspect of my own self attacking the person who needs my kindness - me!!

So - I struggle with myself as many of us do but I try to look at the 'positive' side of feeling negative and that is at least i can empathise with others' feelings of inadequacy and assure them that their view of themself is just a poor perspective and when i look at them - they mosty look pretty good.

But - I think oirams' depiction of male helping female up to heaven from her natural place beside the devil is very 'unhelpful' shall i say.. .and would only add a straightjacket to anyone trying to break free from a troubled or programmed mind.

[futurepower3000]

I think you have enough dealing with your own mind, I couldn’t imagine the hell it wuold be to worry of people judging me…. Who the heck are they? I don’t care… they are not qualified to give a good opinion about you, ask a doctor or a therapist, they are the specialists.

[bornfreenow]

Originally Posted by ufochick

I think there are 2 things that happen when people get into this mindset.

One; most all people judge others in some way on appearance. If you are in any way empathic you may be picking up on those who judge you badly. The thing to remember is that is a flaw in THEM. NOT YOU. Those who look at others and judge this way are only following that program because they feel inadequate and judging others to be beneith them makes them feel normal or "OK". Young women tend to be very insecure (another program introduced by todays society) so tend to judge others more negatively than older people.

Now I say this because it's crazy making to try to convince yourself that this is not happening if on some level you know it is.

Two; It's a program in you, you have made a habit of seeing yourself as not worthy. So change the program

Only you know if it's one or two or a combination of both. If it's one just smile and think wow I wish people could feel better about themselves and go on.

Awesome post and in my own personal experience I would say is entirely correct!

[zhiba]

Originally Posted by artmuzz

Hmm that's strange I cannot see my birthday February 17 displayed on my profile. Also I cannot see anyone elses birthday displayed in their profile too.

It's in your mini-stats in the upper right of your profile, artmuzz. i'm pretty sure that you can edit those details if you wish.

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Reading your posts, it sounds like you have a lot going for you

You're lucky to be musically motivated / minded, it's a good avenue to express yourself, and i think it's good that you have discovered thay talent

i have suffered from depression from time to time too - for me it's a seasonal thing - and i think it's important not to focus too heavilly on it, because that focus can be damaging in and of itself - it kinda crerates a trap that is difficult to escape: negative thoughts alone can bring people down. Focus on the positives

Just be yourself - - try not to judge yourself, and in doing just that one thing you will start to create a positive change in your life, in how you see yourself, in how others see you - and your own perception of how others see you

If you like to read, see if you can get hold of a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - billed as a practical guide to personal freedom, it helps to understand the damaging agreements that we make with ourselves and aids us to remove them from our reality - well worth a read