Are other people in your life mirrors of yourself?

[red_ram]

I've noticed that many of the people in my family life exhibit behaviours that stand out for me because they remind me so strongly of myself. For example, my girlfriend puts herself down a lot, and to hear her do so upsets me greatly. However, I used to do this myself, but didn't know how much it would affect those closest to me. I have to wonder, is this to show me first hand how my actions have affected others?

[krakhead]

"Birds of a feather flock together"?

You say you used to put yourself down a lot. Did you stop before you and your girlfriend got together?

[red_ram]

Yes, from the beginning of this year I've had a consistently high opinion of myself after 24 years of hating myself, basically.